A visit to my 85-year-old dad prompted me to move my family back to the US. I wasn't prepared for caregiving.

Vivian Pei left the US and spent more than 30 years building a career and starting a family abroad. She and her two teenage kids moved back after she realized her father needed help. Pei cared for him until he died last year. She's grateful for their final years together. This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Vivian Pei, an American mother of two and cofounder of Snacky Mini Mart in Iowa City. After building her career abroad for over 30 years, she moved back to the US to look after her father. Her words have been edited for length and clarity. I spent more than 30 years living abroad. I never imagined I'd end up moving back to the US, especially to Iowa City, where I'd never lived before. Five years ago, I visited my 85-year-old dad and was shocked by how much he'd aged. He'd always been fiercely independent and had continued working at his restaurant in Wisconsin until just before the pandemic, but suddenly he seemed so much older.

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