The Word: Marriage isn’t a contest to win

I adore my wife. After 30 years together, Hollie Anne is still my favorite sight, sound, smell and person to hold close. Song of Solomon has nothing on how this woman makes me feel. I love her more today than I ever have. She’s my safe place, my calm when life gets loud and one of God’s greatest blessings in my life. Marriage has taught me something important: if you get into an argument and one of you “wins” by leaving the other feeling crushed, defeated or deflated, you both lose. Every. Single. Time. The goal of marriage isn’t to win arguments. It’s to grow together. Genesis 2:24 says a husband and wife become “one flesh.” One, not two competitors keeping score. Not two people fighting for the championship belt. One. I’m not in this marriage just to see what Cameron can get out of it. I want what’s best for the Baileys. We’re a team. And bless her heart, she’s stuck with me until I breathe my last. Marriage isn’t a scoreboard, and your spouse ain’t someone to defeat.

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